Wicked Weed Brewing - Asheville

[Evan!]

and one reason why I won't ever have kids.

Are you afraid of what you might do to them (serious question)?

[wildwest450]

Maybe in the back of my mind, but it's not like i'm pining away for children. Plus the wife was born without a biological clock, she adores her nieces and nephews, but has no desire to have her own, so it's seems to be working out this way.

[Lamppa]

Im not above a smack in the mouth at home. Removing the child and explainimg what behavior is expected and what the consequences of positive and negative behavior are, is always the best option, especially in public. There are those times where a smack in the mouth and THEN THE LITTLE DISCUSSION is appropriate IMO.

[Ó Flannagáin]

I'm more of a smack on the ass if anything, don't think i could hit my kid in the face

[Lamppa]

i agree, its usually a butt smack, I was just thinking of a specific time when she screamed right in my face cuz she was mad at me for telling her she couldnt have candy or something. i told her not to do it and she did it again, closer and louder. thats when i smacker her mouth and then we had the discussion.

[Ó Flannagáin]

Yea, heat of the moment I could see that, not a punch right?

[Lamppa]

no way, just a light pop of the wrist with my fingers on the lips

[RedBeard]

I think that a lot of this depends on the age. That being said, usually kids just need to be removed from the situation if they're in a public restaurant. It's mostly out of courtesy to the other people. Kids act up in public more when they have already previously established that they can push the envelope without consequence, so it has more to do with how you parent before and after, and less about that heat of the moment.

I don't think I could hit my kid in the face, but I know my mom did it to me once, and I completely deserved it. I was about 11 and said something REALLY disrespectful and defiant. Before I could finish saying it, she popped me right in my mouth. Needless to say, next time I thought twice about a disrespectful comment, and realized that I was crossing a line that should never be crossed. I never had any anger towards her for it, because she was always such a great mom and would do anything for me. She was firm, but not angry and looking back I don't think I have a problem with her doing that. But usually I think that's a little too far. A normal spanking when a kid really crosses a line is about all that is necessary if you're practicing good parenting in other ways, IMO.

[RedBeard]

I was spanked a couple times as well. It's just lately, and more importantly, as a parent, I see things a little differently. Watching others interact (and discipline) with their children in public - I just have to be a dick and wonder why they can't explain things to their kids. Just screaming "Stop it!" over and over obviously isn't working the majority of the time, and I have to think it's because the kid doesn't know why they're being asked to stop.

I totally see what you're saying, but kids also need to understand that there will be times they need to obey at that moment without necessarily knowing all the reasons you are telling them to do that. If they refuse to obey unless they decide it's what make sense on their own, then that's not only defiant, but possibly dangerous if they are in the wrong situation and decide to disobey because they don't know why you told them to do something.

[wildwest450]

Amazing how this turned from opening a brewery to child rearing 101, hilarious...